Silver Linings

Life is full of crappy occurrences. From jobs/careers we don't like, to being dumped, to death, around many corners is the feeling of unhappiness or despair. Many people like to say that there is always a silver lining to every dark cloud. Usually the person experiencing the crappy occurrences is not going to automatically see the silver lining, but 9 times out of 10, they are there. Sometimes you just need to time in order to see them. There is no reason to dwell on the bad stuff. If you do that, it will just eat away at you and destroy you from the inside out (both literally and figuratively).

Due to occurrences in my life currently, I have come to the realization that I cannot dwell on things that are out of my control. I have been trying to make the best of these situations. My mom tended to say, "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade", and that is so true. Although, I would say at this point to add some Firefly Sweet Tea Vodka and make it a spiked lemonade tea, much tastier. But in any event, you just have to see some good in all aspects of your life. It may not be easy to do, and you might need the help of others, but there is always good that comes with bad. It is the universes way of duality, the yin to the yang.

Chinese philosophy states that the yin & the yang are interdependent. Meaning, you cannot have one with out the other. Yin & Yang are not static, rather constantly changing balance. Too much of either can cause disharmony in one's life. Hence the basis of, if you constantly live in the negative (pessimism) then it will seem that everything is always bad or not going the way you would like.

Seinfeld had an episode where Jerry seemed to always catch a break whenever something "bad" would happen. He lost a gig, got another one, Elaine threw out $20 onto the street, and he found another one in his coat pocket. George also experiences his own bit of opposite in this episode. He decided to do everything the opposite of what his normal instincts would have told him to do. In doing so, he gets a date with a beautiful woman, a job interview with his beloved Yankees, and even tells "Steinbrenner" what he truly thinks about his ownership style. Elaine has her own issues but in the negative aspect. She is being thrown out of her apartment complex, and her boss ends up irritating some potential investors, because she was infatuated with JuJu Fruits and could not alert him to forgetting his handkerchief. She proclaims that she is becoming George. Jerry's life is seemingly in balance since George is doing very well and Elaine was not doing well.

There will always be problems in your life. There will always be disappointment and periods of unhappiness. You just have to be strong enough to understand that it will turn around. It might not happen like turning on a light switch, but it will get better. Have faith that time will provide that turn around for you.