Help

When we are young, we all need help. From the day we are born, we rely on others to feed us, wash us, clothe us, and to keep us safe. As we get older, we all tend to want to do more on our own. From feeding ourselves, to dressing ourselves, to even learning to tie our shoes or ride a bike. While we may not succeed right away, we want to know that we have done it ourselves. We tend to get away from asking or looking for help. When we become adults, some of us feel too proud to ask for help. Whether it be a loan from a family member or friend for a house or car, or it be from a professional for an addiction or personal problem, many of us tend to have reservations about it. Some may say that is a sign of weakness to ask for help. I was definitely one of those people.

At first, I didn't even think I really had a problem, but as things in my life began to spiral out of control, I came to realize that I was not going to be able to conquer my issue on my own. I was in denial and had it not been for certain things happening in my life, I may still have not sought out help. But I have began to realize that help is not for the weak, it is for us all. I tend to bring in sports references when talking about my life and about topics that I have been writing about, because it is something very familiar with me. A golfer may be on his own as far as striking the ball, but he or she has assistance from their caddies, a swing coach, and maybe even a psychologist to help with the mental aspect. A pitcher cannot beat a team on his own (no pitcher has ever struck out 27 batters in a game and even if he did, he would still have at the very least his catcher to provide assistance). Last night Matt Cain (SF Giants) through the 22nd perfect game in MLB history. Had it not been for catches made by Melky Cabrera (6th) and Gregor Blanco (7th), that would not have been the case.

My family and I have received much assistance over the past couple of weeks from many family and friends of ours. From recommendations, to groceries, to full on dinners bought for us and brought to our home, everyone has been so supportive of us in our time of great sadness. We lean on each other when things feel difficult and we have been able to lean on others as well. While we more than likely would have been good over the past couple of weeks, the help from others has made things easier to deal with. While no one can take away the pain, we have been able to cope with it more since other aspects of our lives have been catered to. I know I am forever grateful to have the love, support, and assistance of my family and friends.

We all make mistakes in life. One mistake made by many is not feeling comfortable enough to reach out to someone who cares and ask for help. It doesn't make you any less of a person to receive help. We as humans will make mistakes. Sometimes we just need someone from the outside to help show us the wrong, as well as show us the right. I am very thankful that I have finally opened my eyes and realized all of this. I feel better about myself and believe that there is still much more growth I will go through with the help of others.

Help - The Beatles (1965)

Help, I need somebody,
Help, not just anybody,
Help, you know I need someone, help.

When I was younger, so much younger than today,
I never needed anybody's help in any way.
But now these days are gone, I'm not so self assured,
Now I find I've changed my mind and opened up the doors.

Help me if you can, I'm feeling down
And I do appreciate you being round.
Help me, get my feet back on the ground,
Won't you please, please help me.

And now my life has changed in oh so many ways,
My independence seems to vanish in the haze.
But every now and then I feel so insecure,
I know that I just need you like I've never done before.

Help me if you can, I'm feeling down
And I do appreciate you being round.
Help me, get my feet back on the ground,
Won't you please, please help me.

When I was younger, so much younger than today,
I never needed anybody's help in any way.
But now these daya are gone, I'm not so self assured,
Now I find I've changed my mind and opened up the doors.

Help me if you can, I'm feeling down
And I do appreciate you being round.
Help me, get my feet back on the ground,
Won't you please, please help me, help me, help me, oh.